45-Year-Old Afghan Woman Describes Family Denial of Education

A 45-year-old Afghan woman recounted in Hasht-e Subh how her traditional family prevented her from attending school despite her demonstrated talent, attributing the outcome to fate rather than their decisions.

Born into a large traditional family, she described a time when UNICEF literacy programs allowed boys and girls to learn together at home. She excelled, completing the curriculum in six months. Her teacher visited the home to recommend enrolling her directly in fourth grade at a government school, praising her potential. However, her mother refused, stating the girl was too old and that schools were not suitable for girls.

Days later, the mother enrolled two younger brothers in school. The woman said she would secretly read their books and weep, dreaming of becoming a doctor in a white coat—a regret that persists when visiting hospitals.

Now in her mid-40s, she continues to question her family, who respond that it was her destiny. She noted her brothers attended school but later dropped out as they wished, while she was entirely denied the opportunity.

She has resumed learning, starting with English, to advocate against depriving girls of education and to symbolize resilience for those whose families dictate their futures under the guise of divine fate.